The endless sniveling in the media about the so-called “recession” is maddening. Even worse, is when they focus on a “single-mom” who “struggles” to make ends meet.
In defining single-mom, I’m referencing those who “choose” single motherhood; this, by divorcing the father of her children, or by having children out of wedlock, and then actively preventing the father from being involved in “his” child’s life. Moreover, they do so to become “child support moms” and thereby retire off of their new-found windfall that pays many in excess of six figure tax free incomes over the life of their “investment.”
It’s a well-known and incontrovertible fact that women are the initiators of divorce in the majority of cases. Moreover, and contrary to the lies espoused by feminists, abuse (be it emotional, drug, physical) IS NOT the primary reason women seek divorce. Many do so simply for the financial gain to be made. In other words, it “pays” a woman (immensely) to divorce.
In 84% of divorce cases nationwide, the mother is automatically awarded custody of the children, and without any regard (in most cases) for how fit the father is as a parent. It’s a given that she’ll get the house, the kids, the car and up to half of the father’s “net” income for the next 18-21 years. The money is for “child support” of course.
Post divorce, (and contrary to the media’s false claim that single mothers are financially destitute) most fathers live in abject poverty while their ex-wives collect exorbitant amounts of monthly “child support” that leaves dad without enough of his own money to support himself. He either lives with friends in many cases, or lives on the streets. He goes without food, without heat in winter, without medical care and without basic necessities, while the mother of his children lives the high life, but cries about being a “single-mom.”
I personally witnessed one case where an alcoholic mother collected nearly $1000/mo in “child support” from the father. She was more educated than he, earned more money than he (in her last year of full time work) and worked only part-time while she “drank the child support up” each month. This, while the parties child slept on the floor of their mother’s home. Why? The mother refused to buy the child a bed.
The father, due to his crushing and financially unbearable child support order lost everything; his home, his job, and most of his possessions. He petitioned the court to lower his monthly child support obligation following the involuntary loss of his job (and through no fault of his own), but the court refused. His child support order was actually raised to nearly $1100/mo, while his monthly unemployment benefits were a meager $1600/mo. And this, while gasoline was in excess of $4.00 per gallon. Lets see how these poor “single-moms” support a family on only $500 per month!
Contrary to what the “radfems” (aka misandrist) claim, the scenario I’ve just described is “not” an aberration, it’s the norm for single dads. How would I know better than they? It’s simple, I’m a father’s rights activist, I’ve heard hundreds (perhaps thousands) of stories just like the aforementioned, only worse. You read that right, that was one of the “good” stories.
There are other stories, far worse, that would literally make you vomit. Stories where Ohio’s Child Support Enforcement Agencies (CSEAs) threaten to incarcerate “paralyzed” fathers for failing behind in their child support obligations. Why did they fall behind? They suffered permanent injuries (some to such extent they need help bathing) and are unable to work. Yet, when they petitioned the courts and CSEAs to lower their monthly child support obligations, they were refused and told, “pay up or go to jail you “deadbeat.”"
It’s high time we start asking the following question; “what kind of a “mother” steals so much of her ex-husband’s or ex-boyfriends income, that it and it alone forces him to live in abject poverty, forces him to go without heat in winter, to be without food on the table, and for some, to live in a homeless camp on the banks of the Ohio river?” Is that the model of a loving mother, or a greedy one?
What kind of a mother gloats when through her unwarranted and hateful vindictiveness towards her children’s father, “demands” that he be jailed for failing behind in his child support payments following the loss of his job (through no fault of his own), or following paralysis, heart-attack, cancer, stroke, car accident, blindness etc? Is that the same single mother depicted in the media, and the one we’re supposed to pity?
I’ll answer the preceding; it’s a greedy self-serving “child support mom.” She is one who is without morals, who is vindictive, who cannot support herself, who claims she’s “entitled” to her ex’s money, and who cares nothing about her children with the exception of how much monthly income they’ll provide for her, and that at the expense of them and their father.
Nearly every single dad I’ve spoken to is praying that this country implodes financially. They’re hoping that we experience a depression that will make the last look like a walk in the park. They’d welcome food shortages, gas shortages, and even total anarchy.
Why? It’s simple. For those fathers who’ve been financially raped by astronomically high and grossly unwarranted child support orders, ones whereby they’re left without enough of their “own” money to support themselves, the financial destruction of America’s economy is the only way others will finally see (and therefore experience) how they’re forced to “live.”
Please, for the sake of all single dads stop whining about how hard you have it, and about this so-called “recession.” One that would be considered a life of heavenly prosperity by most single dads if they had only a fraction of what you have. We’re so sorry you’ve had to cut Starbucks back to thrice a week.
“For the love of money is the root of all evil.”
Tony Fantetti
Ohio Council for Fathers Rights
Email: tony.fantetti@ocffr.org
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