To my readers,
Please understand that what I do with regard to this website, blogging and helping others; mainly fathers, but also their wives, girlfriends, sisters, mothers, etc as well as non-custodial moms, is on my own time and at my own expense.
I always find it amusing when people (especially those single moms who hate and despise me) tell me, “I’m going to set my on blog up…” “Good luck with that one,” is what I’m generally thinking…Sarcastically of course.
To my point. Thousands of hours and thousands of dollars is the cost of “just blogging” when you factor in content control, managing SPAM, mitigating security risks, owning your own domain and the associated email.
In short, there’s a lot more than just stringing some sentences together if you care in the least about being effective, changing the minds and thinking of those in disagreement, and making a difference. Additionally, a LOT of research is involved as one must be speaking the truth and with facts to back your words.
Anyone who has been following me since I “set up shop” knows that I’ve entered many periods of lull, that in one case, lasted more than a year. That’s a terrible thing to do if someone who reads me is depending on the emotional support that many of my posts deliver.
And truthfully, those lulls affect me DEEPLY in an emotional manner. In all honestly, I feel a lot of shame and guilt that in turn (and unfortunately) sometimes increases the length of my silence.
The cause of said lulls is usually manifold in most cases. I like many of you must work to eat, and my job is very demanding. Add to that this thing called “life”, my own case, and problems, encounters, etc in that realm affect not only what I can do here as a blogger, but more importantly how well I do it.
When I write, my heart and emotions must be in it. Especially if in the the piece I’m writing at the time, I’m trying to connect with my readers (especially struggling noncustodial single dads and moms) on an emotional level.
If my “head’s not in the game,” when I’m writing,then I may as well be posting the alphabet, as the outcome would be the same; the piece will be heartless, ineffective and worthless crap, just like Ohio’s “Child” Support Enforcement Agencies (CSEA) and many of their overpaid employees. Or better yet, thugs.
Due to SPAM, and my efforts to stop it from taking over this site, anyone who has never posted here before will have their comment “flagged” by the SPAM filters. When that happens, I have to manually release the comment so it’ll post. And I generally follow that action up with an email to the person who wrote the comment. After the SPAM filter “knows” you. That flagging is no longer an issue.
Their are better ways to manage both comments and SPAM, and I really need to implement them here, but again, that takes time. I need to learn the technology and then implement the same. This site needs many updates and many changes to be made, however web design is not my forte.
I can code in the various website related languages, but I’m no expert in them, and I do it just enough that I forget what I’ve learned when the time comes to do it again. So take that one ‘simple’ thing, website maintenance and combine that with a blog post that takes 8 hours to write after research is factored in, or I’ve re-wrote the piece 90 times because I didn’t like the way it flowed.
Or, consider that I tried to “condense” the piece because it’s way way too long, I’ve stated the same point multiple times albeit in different ways, or it’s just too wordy. Repeating myself, being wordy, and going off point sadly are three of my “strong suits” by the way. And that’s clearly unfortunate for both you and me.
Drawing on some older political drama involving ole Slick Willy, who I utterly detest and am absolutely no fan of but would welcome back with open arms over the current occupant of the White House; I could type a 25 page, single spaced exposition on the definition of the word ‘is.’ I’m not kidding.
But alas, see what I mean? The last two paragraphs were a total waste of cyber ink, I was beginning to drag you down that road, and I just got started, and you know what’s worse? I continue with this; a THIRD useless paragraph. I’m convinced it’s a sickness…
In closing I want to add there’s little that’s more frustrating than taking the time (especially lots of it) to think and write out a response to something, clicking “submit”, “ok” or whatever, and seeing that your comment did not post.
So please know that in regard to the OCFFR Blog, your comment will be posted. it just may take some time, and unfortunately, more than “just a little” in some cases.